i love supporting my people, my community, marginalized and invisibilized folks, people with whom i resonate, and those i share common challenges with. i enjoy doing so in a way that is not only nourishing to those receiving from me, but also a healthy choice for myself and others concerned or involved. i am disinclined to engage with people who feel expectant or entitled to me or my resources. passive-aggressiveness is also met with deaf ears. i shared the below mapping on my instagram stories a few weeks ago and many people found resonance. so i am sharing it again here. peace <3
just because someone is:
a woman
a woman of color
a person who i share commonalities with
a person i generally like
does not mean i will automatically do what they want me to do, give them what they want from me, or hook them up with resources (people, things, institutions)
this does not mean that:
i’m a hater
i’m being competitive
i’m hoarding resources
i’m reveling in gatekeeping
i’m operating from ego
i don’t like a given person
i don’t respect a given person
i don’t want everyone to win
this does mean that:
i am very discerning
i am very deliberate/purposeful
i take very seriously who and what i offer my time, energy, resources, and co-sign to
i honor my boundaries and capacity
i don’t owe anyone anything
i am courteous of my network and their time, energy, and boundaries
i have no interest in doing something i don’t want to just because someone else wants me to